singleness

“In a relationship.”

Something almost all of us want to be able to say or post on our facebook walls. Almost all of us desire to have a significant other if we don’t already have one. I see posts all over my timeline about being single and how awful it is. I hear countless people talking about how they want to be in a relationship already and how they just want somebody by their side forever. It’s a worldwide desire. We all want to be wanted. We all want somebody to cherish us and someone who never leaves our side. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want that too.

But I want to talk about God’s view on all this. Every time I think about relationships and the desire we have to be in them, it brings up a question. “Why do I desire relationship?”

The first book of the Bible gives us the answer! God created Adam but He knew that it would be better for Him to have a helper alongside Him. God is the author and creator of relationships! He started them all off from the very beginning with the first humans to walk our earth.

Genesis 2:18- Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”

So if God created relationships, can’t we trust Him to fulfill our desire to have one?

If a very generous person was making cupcakes and you asked for one, I’m sure they would give you one.

God is the most generous being ever and He loves to see His children happy. There is a verse that has been on my heart recently and it is Psalm 84:11- “For the Lord God is our sun and shield. He gives us grace and glory. The Lord will withhold NO good thing from those who do what is right.”

The Lord knows you better than anybody and He knows the significant other that He has in mind for you- He will not withhold that from you.

All we have to do is follow Him and trust that He knows best. I know it’s not a piece of cake and it doesn’t always make the journey of singleness easier, but it gives me hope to know that my creator, and the creator of love knows who is best for me. And He has perfect timing in that.

So in your singleness, trust the creator of relationships. Trust that He knows best for you. Listen to His voice and follow His leading. And know that no earthly relationship could ever fulfill you like Jesus does. He is the only one who can truly fill that void in our hearts. Earthly relationships are meant to be His reflection- not fulfillment.

Girls: Wait for that man who will pursue you. Wait for that man who will cherish you and be intentional with you- not someone who leads you on or someone who messes you around. But wait for the man who is listening to God when He is asking you out!

Guys: Stop with all that “She’s too good for me.” If God is leading you to be with someone, follow Him! What is the worst that could happen? Remember, God knows best. Emotions and infatuation can get the best of us, but it’s the Lord’s voice that is right. Ask for discernment and don’t be hard on yourself!

All the love,

Mel x

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